In the world outside the computer,
I spend a great deal of time at home.
In my sanctuary.
Practicing my hermit ways,
venturing out on occasions.
When I have trouble with a shop keeper, a quarrelsome customer, or a obnoxious soul at the grocery,
I deal with it, and move on.
They are forgotten almost instantly, as I try to dwell more in the lightness of being.
In the inner world of the computer, things work very differently.
When some one stalks me, trolls me, harasses me, leaves nasty comments and rants about my gender, my sexual orientation, my religious faith, or any manner of their choosing, I can hit delete.
But what do I do when it continues?
When it is here, there, every where?
I don’t understand the mind that obsesses, I can not fathom the heart that loves with restrictions, that places arbitrary value on faith and kindness.
These things are beyond me.
I have thought about them for months, and even when I switched blogs, some of them followed me.
WHY?
To spew hateful words? to say things of little or no value? out of what? spite? illness? loneliness? madness?
I can not say.
But I have found that there is little , if anything I can do about them.
Honestly it is hard to ignore it, when they post a comment under a name you haven’t seen before,
and you glance at it, only to find choice ugly words.
It shocks, and it hurts.
But I suspect that is there intent.
Those words, however, will not change my ideologies, My faith, My love of women and men of any race, color, religion no matter what they look like on the outside, I will Love who I love because of the LIGHT that pours forth from the inside.
So, that being said. I apologize for the comment moderation, I simply do not wish to subject you, ( whomever you, the reader might be) to their malice.
Thank you…
for your understanding.
and for sharing the walk in the labyrinth of life.
Lessons
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((hugs))
Have missed you.
Personally, I would let the comments stand with no comment back from you. No energy expended. Sometimes not feeding the monsters is best. They eventually leave starving. Besides, no one needs any help revealing their character.
Just my 2cents.
I do however, appreciate you thinking of others here…
Sorry to hear you’ve been ill. Take care of yourself.
Rosa~
I have missed this space too. I am deleting the nasties, because honestly, i know how empathetic i get when i read some nasty comment some where in the blog world. And I would really hate for someone to find one here. Thats not what this space is for.
(((HUGS))) good to see you!
and I am trying to mend..hopefully soon I will be back on my feet.!!!
Sorrow, I had no idea you were struggling with trolls. I’m so sorry to hear that, especially that they followed you. I don’t understand the way some are driven to be nasty like that. Some say that the relative anonymity of the internet brings that out in people…but I honestly think that you have to be bent in that direction to begin with, because what it means is that they’re people who enjoy making others feel bad. The internet has nothing to do with that darkness inside them.
Anyway, moderate away! This is your space, and there’s no reason to deal with them. It is really nice to see you back.
Deb~ It was a pain in the backside alluded to a couple times. I have never been able to understand it, but as a good friend told me, the world is full of broken people, and compassion is the best medicine. I just tried so hard to find away around it..you know? But there honestly isn’t one. So I will just deal! I have missed this space…
and you as well!
((((((((((((( Sorrow )))))))))))
Makes me sad.
Life is too short, too precious.
All life.
*sigh*
MEL~ I am forever learning lessons about dealing with people. I dare say, I am not very good at it. perhaps thats why I am always having to get so much practice?
You are a very wise lady , and you share a great big heart, that makes my days a lot easier …
Oh honey it is good to see you back here. I hope that they leave you alone, I think there is only one and she will get zapped by the karma crone, you mark my words.
Ahhh Muse,
Even if they don’t I have come full circle to a place where I think I can cope with it. I just love the way this particular space/place feels for me.
(((HUGS))))
Thank you!
Going backwards Sorrow, never reading now and forward, i like to go from now to past to see how it changes yesterday’s words…………..somedays I can only believe we all made a contract for this, a design, a grandplan, that had an ultimate reason we cannot now recall in human form, otherwise, put simply, nothing but love and humanity makes sense…peace to you today.
SE~
truly it is only Love that makes any lasting understanding in my simple brain.
Laughter and light to you…